31 day blog challenge, me, my life, 2018

Daily rituals.

Day 3 of the 31 day blog challenge.

So I get up every morning and sacrifice a goat and bow down to satan….or you know,do all the same things as most people do on the daily like snooze my alarm 500 times and reluctantly go to work. I also check Instagram, twitter, Facebook, snapchat and don’t hate me….the daily mail online and then I text my beloved back.

When I was online dating I used to obsessively check tinder, pof, Bumble and okcupid. It felt so weird deleting those apps and not just deleting the app but the whole account but obviously it was worth it.

I guess my new daily ritual is updating this blog whilst doing this challenge so follow me for the next 31 days to see what happens!

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20 facts about me.

Day 2 of the 31 day blog challenge.

Ahh I remember how hard this one is….

  1. I’ve mentioned this before numerous times but considering my last one of these started with how I’ve never been in love a good place to start this is…IM IN LOVE! After a long long mostly hideous search I’ve finally found my penguin.
  2. Talking of penguins, The Scientist and I collect them! I worry in 50 years time we will be that weird old couple with all the penguins!
  3. The most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me was when the Scientist searched the whole of Brighton beach to find me a perfect pebble when I sent him this one day: the boy did good!
  4. Brighton is my fave place in the U.K. The beach, the shops just the whole vibe.
  5. But I also really love Essex (all those years of watching TOWIE!) which is good as this year I will be moving there!
  6. We’ve been looking at houses and I always had myself down for an ultra modern kinda gal but nope, apparently I want an old house with real beams…they just look soooo cosy!
  7. My dream house would be a brownstone in NYC, bitch needs a stoop in her life!
  8. As long as the house comes with a black pug (my favourite dog) called lord puggingtons (of course!) and definitely…
  9. No ghosts (which I believe in) then were all set.
  10. I think the ghost thing comes from too many horror films, currently were trying to work our way through all of them on Netflix.
  11. I like the feeling of being scared
  12. I don’t tend to have nightmares and even if I do I constantly lucid dream so can change the outcome if the bad guy is after me!
  13. Or If i do I can chill out by listening to Lewis Capaldi who is my favourite artist at the moment
  14. My best moment of last year ( other than meeting my beloved of course!) was going to see Lewis live, being front row, getting the set list, meeting him after the gig and getting a signed tshirt and taking a selfie.
  15. When I’m not at gigs and meeting rockstars I’m secretly a nerd
  16. My favourite thing to do with The Scientist is to chill out and play scrabble
  17. Im super competitive so it’s a good job I pretty much always win!
  18. I’m not just a letters gal I also have a weird OCD thing with numbers I’m scared of the number 13 and everything has to be in evens.
  19. I have an odd number of tattoos though but I’ve fallen out of love with them so don’t want to have anymore.
  20. A bit like how I don’t want to have kids! I’m super maternal towards my nieces but they are not for me!
31 day blog challenge, me, my life, 2018

31 day blog challenge 2018!

I feel that I’ve been really slack with my blog recently, I guess that’s what happens when you blog about online dating and get into a relationship but I enjoy writing so I’m going to do another one of these challenges to encourage me to carry on, also I think it’s interesting to look back on last years one and see how far I’ve come. I’m going to be using this one; Ok let’s begin…. let’s keep the intro short as you all know me by now.

My names Tanya, I’m 33. Former online dating blogger and now a loved up soppy fucker. I think 2018 will be a year of massive changes and growing up for me which will be interesting as I’ve not seemed to nail adulting so far!

Here’s my recent picture, last time I did this I had pink hair! I really should bring that back. look at me rocking the Jeffrey Dahmer snap chat filter!

See you tomorrow folks!

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Moving in and moving on.


I realise a lot of you will read this post and think we’re crazy and it’s super fast and maybe you’re right but I’ve never felt happier!

Soooooooo what’s new with me? Nothing much except I’ve asked for a transfer at work so I can move in with The Scientist. No biggie.

I’ve not got a single doubt about moving in with him other than where my hundreds of pairs of shoes will go, I must love him as I’ve been sorting through my stuff ( I’ve lived alone for 7 years so I’ve got a lot of crap!) and already thrown out a few pairs. It was like Sophie’s choice but harder.

I’m sad about leaving work as I love my dysfunctional family there, my friends are scattered about so that’s not a problem and I ll only be an hour away from my family.

I can’t wait to start our lives together.

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Meet the family

Last week I turned 33 (fuck me i’m getting on!) The Scientist, X and I went to my favourite beach to celebrate. I get that this is an unconventional threesome considering my well documented past with X but I love The Scientist and want him to get to know the other important man in my life. Not going to lie I was nervous. They are very different so could have been a disaster luckily they got on very well and we had a lovely day. After our beach adventure it was time to meet the family. I don’t speak to my parents and the only family I have in my life are my sister, brother in law and nieces. But luckily they fell in love with him too! My sister is equally as sassy as me and my nieces are even sassier so it could have been a tough crowd. My sister said that he is one of those people who you can’t help but fall in love with. Yep. Completely agree. I was pretty much there on date 2!

I’m going up north in a few weeks to meet his parents, even though I know they’re lovely (I’ve heard them on the phone) I’m more nervous than I’ve ever been about anything ever. I probably don’t make the best first impression. I’m cocky and loud and sweary so I’m going to have to hold all of that back! Wish me luck!

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Those three little words

So after an amazing 2 months together and spending the last week at his I finally said those words, those words that I’ve never ever even come close to saying before. I Love you. Well actually it slipped out from him whilst we were being all snuggly and I said it back. I do love him. He makes me feel so different to anyone else. I love spending time with him and I love planning our future together. We’ve now said it a million times to each other (yeah, we’re just that cute!) but I feel it stronger every time we say it.

So yeah that all that’s new with me. The lone wolf is finally in LOVE!

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Just my type.

I’m in a reflective mood today, seeing it’s nearing the end of the year it’s got me thinking about the ghosts of dating past, more specifically the types of ghosts.

When I tell my friends about The Scientist, they are all surprised. 95% because I actually have a boyfriend (thanks friends!) and 5% because he’s stable. Stable life. Stable job. Stable family.

I’ve never deliberately gone for bad boys but they have always seemed to find me. Everyone I’ve dated before has issues and are either addicts or drug dealers or you know, drug dealing addicts.

I think like attracts like. Obviously I’m not peddling meth but I am damaged and maybe they can see that in me?

I can remember once when I was chatting to Freckles (chavvy, no home, broke) and the accountant (stable, good job, lots of money.) and we all know who I chose to go on a date with.

Self worth has a lot to do with it. I’ve always gone for wrongens before because that’s all I’ve felt I’ve deserved.

I wasn’t looking for someone like The Scientist but he’s everything I needed. Looks wise he’s obviously my type but personality wise we are so different! He’s laid back, I’m aggy. He’s nice, I’m a shitbag. He’s logical, I’m irrational. He plans, I jump straight in. It still works though.